SHARING YOUR STORY
Marlene Rutherford's Story; Founder and Owner of Joyful Awakenings
I was born in rural Victoria on a very hot day (so my mother often told me) in 1953. I was the youngest child to Stan and Joyce, with one sister and three brothers. We grew up on 100 acres of orchard growing pears, apples, peaches and apricots. During the summer holidays we all had to help sort fruit to send to the local cannery, of course there was often protest about having to do this. We were rewarded with lots of fun going water ski-ing on a regular basis. Friends would join us, and my father taught many of them to ski, he was a very patient teacher and had lots of fun with them, he was a bit of a devil (my mother’s words) and a practical joker, generous and loving to all.
I remember only last year and old employee on the orchard speaking lovingly of my father, reminding me he was the one that gave him his first ‘quid’ (approximately $2 in today’s money) by advancing him money to get food before he started work. At his funeral people consciously wore colour and casual clothes and all summed him up the same, a good, loving, generous bloke.
My mother was a great cook and my friends loved coming to taste her beautiful shortbread, jam kisses and the like along with a good roast just to name a few! She was a worrier especially about family and also about what other people thought,( a trait I have inherited and have worked on breaking) I always felt very loved by her, it wasn’t until later in my forties when I really connected with my father and felt that same love. My parents were very involved in the local community, dad through his love of sport and mum with her love of dance. I have fond memories of my carefree childhood and the supportive, loving community I grew up in.
The youngest of five!
It wasn’t until I was 18 and moved to Melbourne to do my Psychiatric Nursing training that I realised how protected I had been and I felt I was at least 10 years behind these city kids! That feeling remained with me for many years.
After my nursing training (1971-1974) the world beckoned me, my eldest brother had married and lived in Durham, England so I went to visit and travel. Whether you call it luck or fate, I found myself in Edinburgh doing post graduate study in Adolescent and family psychiatry, an invaluable experience. In October 2016 I caught up with three friends from those nursing days in Edinburgh, it was a fantastic reunion after nearly 40 years.
On my way home in 1977 I met Paul the man I would marry in 1979. We remained married for 17 years and had four children together, Matthew in 1980, now married to Neisha and have three gorgeous children.
Benjamin 1983, now married to Patty with two gorgeous children.
Jessica 1986, happy with partner Sandip.
Emily 1990, currently travelling the world.
I am proud to say they have grown into beautiful, responsible adults and have a generous spirit of giving of their unique talents to make a difference in this world.
HOMEMADE MATCHING OUTFITS WERE ALL THE RAGE IN 1991!
THE MORNING OF MATT AND NEISH'S WEDDING 2008!
After raising my children I commenced study in Massage, Reflexology, Horstmann technique, hypnosis to name a few and worked a business from a granny flat at home which was perfect as the children were growing up. I became a teacher of Reflexology in 1995 and remain teaching to this day. I love the connection to our feet, sole to soul so to speak. It has taken me many years, a lifetime of being in the caring profession to realise that the quote ‘healer, heal thyself’ is so very potent and I believe the best gift I can give to the world. As Ghandi once wrote, ‘Be the change you wish to see in the world!’
My life has been a journey as I call of ‘Joyful Awakenings’ to realising I am enough, and more than that shy, sensitive little girl born in rural Victoria. However without the journey I would not be who I am today. When I was young and running through the fruit trees on the orchard, which I frequently did, I knew I was not alone and surrounded by loving beings, angels, fairies and light beings. I felt completely safe and loved. It was not until I was five or perhaps six that I recall bursting inside to excitedly tell my mother who happened to be entertaining guests that I had just been communing with these light beings. I cannot recall what I told her, but I can recall the humiliation and embarrassment I caused her and subsequently myself. With an adult (my mother) telling me not to be silly, I then took on the belief that I must have been silly and just making it all up and so I discontinued communing with my light beings from that day on till many, many years later.
From this experience I felt ‘Shame’ from the embarrassment and humiliation. This shame permeated my life in ways I was not aware of till another of those ‘Joyful Awakenings’ in 2015 after reading an applying meditations from the book by Mario Martinez – The Mind Body Code. At long last I could stop being driven by my prime driver of shame. According to Mario we all are wounded by either:- Shame, Betrayal or Abandonment.
There are many books and people who have helped me awaken to who I am and why I am here. Everyone is my teacher and I feel very blessed to have come back home after what seems many years of disconnection in the wilderness. To know once again that I am never alone, that I am loved beyond my wildest dreams, that I am here to experience love in human form and love is all there is, is what drives and excites me today. It is from our belief of disconnection that has led us to a wilderness and I feel divinely driven to awaken people to know they are loved no matter what their current circumstances. I now want to live and die more consciously and inspire others to do the same. It is that coming together as ONE that drives and heals us. We can let go of the old paradigm of competiveness and the old patriarchal system and be pioneers to a world driven by Love, compassion and joy. To bring to light our own unique gifts to the world no matter what age we are. To bring young and old together again, to combine wisdom and youth and to all live from our highest potential and to dream a new world in.
Having seen my father end up in a nursing home and knowing he never wanted to be in one of those places and knowing we are all likely to live longer, I think it’s time we consciously looked at ageing and how we want that to look for ourselves and to be responsible for how we live and how we die for as much as is possible to us. This will mean some serious thought and conversations need to be had. We are pioneers of this new age and our wisdom is so needed, let’s not tuck ourselves away to age quietly, let’s bring ourselves fully into the light as elders and manifest our greatness to help shape family, community and society.